Understanding Shame More Deeply
Common Myths About Shame
Shame is often misunderstood. Let’s clear up a few common myths:
- Myth 1: Shame is just embarrassment.
Truth: Embarrassment is temporary; shame runs deeper, touching how we see ourselves. - Myth 2: Strong people don’t feel shame.
Truth: Everyone experiences shame—it does not mean weakness. - Myth 3: You have to face shame alone.
Truth: Sharing your feelings and seeking support can help lighten shame’s weight. - Myth 4: Shame is always visible to others.
Truth: Shame can be hidden inside, even when others don’t notice.
Recognising these myths can help you be gentler with yourself.
How Shame Shows in Body and Mind
Shame isn’t only a feeling in your head—it can show up physically too. You might notice:
- A tight or sinking feeling in your chest or stomach
- Tension in your muscles or difficulty relaxing
- Urges to avoid people or situations
- Feeling numb, distracted, or unable to focus
Noticing these signals helps you understand when shame is present so you can respond with care.
A Simple Self-Compassion Practice
When shame arises, try this small practice: silently say to yourself,
“It’s okay to feel this. I am here for myself.”
Repeat as needed, like a gentle hug for your heart.
Remember
Healing from shame is a journey. It’s okay to take your time, pause, or revisit these lessons when you need. You are moving forward simply by being here.